Should We Just Buy 2 of Everything so the Kids Don't Fight Over Toys?
Right before Christmas I was picking the kids up from gymnastics class and one of the Moms was telling everyone about how she had bought 2 of every gift for her kids for Christmas (her girls are 5 and 3). Her intent was to make sure that they didn't have any reason to fight over anything. She went on to explain further that she had been buying 2 of everything since before her 2nd child had even been born. She bragged, "I knew even back then that I would have no peace in my house with kids so close in age unless I had 2 of every toy. So now they have no reason to fight!"
I began to feel panicky. Was this what everyone did and I just never knew it? That thought had never occurred to me and certainly not back when I only had one child. I mentally scanned the presents I'd bought for Christmas and realized that I had bought only one of every toy. Of course, I have a boy and a girl so, in theory, this should be no problem. I bought binoculars and trucks for my boy and dolls and doll clothes for my girl.
Yet Christmas came around and sure enough, they fought over everything. My daughter was dying to play with the train and the workbench instead of with her dolls. My son didn't care what he played with as long as he had stolen it from his big sister. On December 27th I thought I was going to lose my mind. My entire day was filled with crying, pushing, protesting and the Christmas spirit was gone. What was wrong with my children? I called my Mom and I was almost in tears and explained the situation to her. She said:
"Katie, it's their job to fight over toys. It's part of growing up and it's how they learn."
I replied, "But they're driving me crazy and I can't stop yelling at them! Now on top of everything I feel super guilty for yelling at them!"
She said, "Don't worry so much. It may be their job to fight but it's your job to yell at them. Or at least teach them."
I found these words very comforting. We are all just doing our jobs. And after I looked at it that way, I calmed down and stopped yelling and started teaching them more calmly. And she was right. After a few days, the newness of all the gifts went away and things went back to normal, with them fighting only part of the day and not all day long. Grandmas are very wise.
I'd love to hear from my readers. Did you go through this fighting after Christmas too? Does anyone buy 2 gifts for everyone, just to prevent fighting?
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